by Dr. Susan Block.     

It’s our first FDR of Kink Month 2023, so we’re all set to let our kink flag fly, as well as recap our sparkly night at the amazing Abby Martin’s art party, which we do…

With the amazing Abby Martin in front of some of her paintings at her party in Queerspace’s Little Secret. Photo: Selfie

But that’s not all that we do.

“Israel’s 9/11”

Indeed, hours before showtime, Hamas attacked Israel, killing hundreds of Israeli soldiers and civilians and taking dozens of hostages in what some are calling “Israel’s 9/11,” its bold and dramatic ferocity demonstrating the stronger country’s complete and embarrassing breakdown in so-called “intelligence.” In response, Israeli forces bombed Gaza, murdering hundreds of Palestinians (who were not responsible for Hamas’ mass murders, just as the Afghans and Iraqis that America bombed were not responsible for 9/11) with vengeful vows of war and more war, and we’re pretty shaken up about it, so of course, we talk about it.

There is no simple solution to this war or any war, except never to start a war, occupation or apartheid colonization in the first place, no matter how “holy” the land.

I have friends and family in Israel; they’re okay, but I tell them to get out of there (not that they listen to me). I support the Palestinian people’s right to live in peace and resist the brutal Zionist occupation, but I condemn the horrific violence of the Hamas attacks. I also condemn Israel’s retaliation which is, of course, many times worse, and just an escalation of the ongoing Zionist campaign of bombing, killing and oppressing the native Palestinians of this land we call “the Holy Land” for decades.

Make Kink Not War

There is no simple solution to this war or any war, except never to start a war, occupation or apartheid colonization in the first place, no matter how “holy” the land.

Make Kink Not War! That’s the Bonobo Way, and it’s our motto every day—especially in the kink-positive month of Kinktober—though these days, raging wars of all kinds are engulfing our vulnerable little world. These wars are not kinky, at least not by my definition which involves consenting adults engaging in mutually exciting activities. In that sense, war is the opposite of kink, though many perversely get “off” on it. Thus, the horrific *war porn* flooding our media every day, and though its hard to look at, it’s even harder to look away.

There are many to blame on all sides for the carnage and terror now consuming Israel and Palestine. Hamas’ violence against civilians is reprehensible, but primary responsibility rests with the greater power which is, in this case, Israel, a nuclear armed colonizer country supported by the U.S.A.

“Gaza Fights for Freedom” with Abby Martin

I learned a lot about the brutal apartheid nature of the Zionist occupation of Palestine from none other than Abby Martin whose “Untold History of Israel & Palestine,” “Gaza fights for Freedom” and other Empire Files documentaries are excellent exposes of the plight of Palestinians under Zionist rule. I highly recommend these films as well as Abby’s interviews with various personalities, including Joe Rogan, to anyone trying to understand the roots of the current violence.

Abby Martin is a truly extraordinary woman whom Capt’n Max *discovered* back in 2014 on the once-great RT (Russian TV). We invited her on The Dr. Susan Block Show for a truly remarkable interview, and we’ve been her friend and fan ever since. Last year, Abby and her wonderful partner Mike Prysner interviewed me on their Dosed Show about sex, violence and the Bonobo Way, and a couple years earlier, I talked about politics and cuckolding on Media Roots with Abby’s brilliant brother Robbie Martin; yes, it’s quite an amazing family of great sexy lefty journalists. Abby and Mike also attended our erotic-verging-on-orgiastic Bonoboville Reunion, so yes, you can see them (mostly in the background) on our Vice TV piece too!

Abby’s Psychedelic Art Party

So, we were delighted to join Abby and Mike at their art show and going away party (sadly, they’re leaving LA for Oregon) at the outdoor Queerspace Little Secret in out-of-the-way DTLA.

What a fun time… for everyone but Chico, who was a naughty barker and had to wait outside while another, calmer canine named Lulu ran the party which was filled with art, music, a metro train going by every hour, drinks on top of a lit-up double decker bus, dancing, singing and swinging. No, not sexual swinging (unfortunately), but a pretty cool swing on a rope by the bar.

Abby’s art was the star of the evening—gorgeous, abstract, hallucinogenic paintings you could lose yourself in, invoking fantasies, dreams and creativity of all kinds.

“Hell Yeah” Painting: Abby Martin

I was honored that Abby gave me one of her most beautiful paintings as a gift. The title, “Hell Yeah,” and its lush red lips, tongue, gleaming teeth, kinky wires, blue-shadowed eyelids, manicured fingers and shadowy nudes all seem to slide down a psychedelic Deep Throat through dreamy doors of perception.

A Mic for Mike

Our gift to Abby was more modest, but she seemed to like the blingy microphone pendant we gave her to honor all the real mics and bullhorns she’s spoken on through her distinguished career. We know Mike loved his mic because he put it around his neck and wore it all night. The perfect mic for Mike!

Mike gets a mic (pendant)! Photo: Rodrigo Alvarez

As I flitted around from swing to bus to dance floor and back, Max hung out in his wheelchair by the bar, still recovering from his horrible case of the shingles, but happily chatting and enjoying the fashion show (especially the foot-wear) and local painkillers (tequila shots).

We met a few cool folks, including some of our own fans, like the garrulous Paul Reynolds who discovered us through Abby and now listens regularly to FDR on Callin. Paul was sweet, even though he boldly photobombed a selfie Abby and I were trying to take in front of her art. Well, fans will be fans, and we love them all.

Senior Sex & a Singing Dog

Casual and warm in the cool of the Kinktober night, Abby’s party was a good time. It was also an aphrodisiac, at least for Max and me. Even though, thanks to Max’s shingles, we can’t touch each other’s most intimate places right now, we managed to have a little orgasmic sex right after the party and before this show.

#GoBonobos for disabled senior sex! It keeps you young and (hopefully) helps you get healthy. It’s also very risky, of course, in various ways, but all in all, sex heals a billion times more than it kills.

Great music is the soundtrack to great sex, and sweet sounds certainly played a big part in Abby’s party. Go bonobos for Max Collins of Eve 6, Mz Neon, Metal Mother, Televangel [Blue Sky Black Death] and DJs Succubus and Infernx!

Music also plays a recurring role in this FDR podcast, beginning with Max in the afterglow of our post-Abby party senior sex, warbling “I’m in the Mood for Love.”

Then it moves onto the return of musician Brady Crow calling in from Texas to sing us his new unfinished song (part of his upcoming antiwar album), “Just Say No to NATO.” It’s pretty cool, though I think it should include “Go Bonobo” somewhere in there. But the best singer of the show—and the whole weekend—is Brady’s SUZY Award-winning dog Rufio crooning to the moon, “Just Say Nooooo to NATOOOooooo.”

Maybe we should teach Chico to sing instead of just barking frantically.

Other subjects on the Love Train include Olivia Wilde, niece of Alex Cockburn – pronounced Cohburn, not cock-burn—though we have a field day with that pronunciation; coconut oil (good for cock burn); our Vice TV piece surpassing 225K views; GW Bush and the Yale Skull and Boneheads; plastic in our water; and the terrible attacks by a gang of young men on Ekolo ya Bonobo in which two male bonobos were killed. Now more than ever, Ekolo and Lola ya Bonobo need our help!

Stay tuned for the time and place of our arbitration against Zuck the META cuck making mega bucks off our exploitation and then rewarding our hard work with deactivation.

And Be Bonobo. Even if we can’t stop wars in the Middle East, Ukraine or anywhere in this war-torn world, we can at least make our voices heard… unless we’re censored, that is.

Well, we can at least “be bonobo” and make peace through pleasure in our own lives. That’s a start!

Happy Kink Month 2023! It may not seem like it for soooo many reasons, but it really is a better time than ever to… Make Kink Not War!

© October 7,  2023 Susan Block, Ph.D., a.k.a. “Dr. Suzy,” is a world renowned LA sex therapist, author of The Bonobo Way: The Evolution of Peace through Pleasure and horny housewife, occasionally seen on HBO and other channels. For speaking engagements, call 626-461-5950.

Abby Martin Party Photo Album
Photos: Rodrigo Alvarez. Selfies: Author