Kinkstars for Kink Month: Biz Bonobo with Ron de Jeremy Rum, Simon Blaise with The Bonobo Way, Dr. Susan Block with Snake Eve, the Wiley-Blackwell International Encyclopedia of Human Sexuality and Ecosexuality: When Nature Inspires the Arts of Love, Audrey Holiday, Dayton Rains with Agwa Coca Leaf Liqueur. Photo: Miss Ono Bo

Length 1:32:54 Date: October 10, 2015

by Dr. Susan Block

Kink Month gets kinkier on DrSuzy.Tv as we investigate the inner and outer realms of Kinkstar kinkster, attorney-at–law, mesmerizing performer, mercurial impresario, bonoboësque quick-change artist, Rocky Mountain “Person of Leather” (2014) and mutable “hermaphrodite,” Mr. Simon Odysseus Blaise, the “King of Kink,” a.k.a., Miss Simon Blaise.

“A rockstar performs on a stage,” points out Simon Blaise. “A pornstar performs on a set. A kinkstar can do both and rock a party like no other.” Thus this Kinkstar rocks Bonoboville with a flick of the wrist and a gender-bending twist. Perfect for Kink Month!

Simon Blaise flogs Audrey Holiday on The Dr. Susan Block Show. Photo: L’erotique

In case you didn’t know (and we certainly didn’t, until last week), October is “Kink Month,” having been so declared by our friends at Stockroom. Seems like a natural, as the Halloween season is a traditionally witchy time to let your freak flag (and floggers) fly as you try on scary masks and play out wild roles. Let the kids have the candy; we’ll take the kink—all month long.

Whatever the season, Simon lives the Kinkstar life pretty much 24/7, believing that “living as our authentic selves is the greatest gift we can give the world.” Definitely one-of-a-kind, though with (at least) two distinct male and female personas, s/he transforms himself to herself, from a dominant man to a feminine lady, right before our eyes, like a magician with nothing up his/her sleeve. In fact, the whole on-camera metamorphosis is pretty sleeveless and seamless, including a strip-down to complete nudity with a fairly close inspection of his/her remarkable “hermaphroditic” genitalia, complete with sizeable and functional (though not reproductive) penis as well as what s/he describes as a clitoris inside the testicles which have a surgical incision down the middle. According to Simon, doctors performed intersex surgery circa the 1970s in an attempt to “fix” him/her as a baby by removing her labia and other feminine characteristics, thus (they fervently hoped) rendering him fully a “man.”

Well, the render didn’t render, at least not fully, despite those doctors’ fervent hopes. We have since learned that intersex surgery, usually performed on children and often impairing sexual function, tends to do more harm than good. Thankfully, this type of nonconsensual body mutilation is going out of fashion, and good riddance. Let hermaphrodites be hermaphrodites! Simon Blaise is on the forefront of an androgynous revolution, refusing to *choose* one gender or take on the pigeon-holing sexual labels that society tries to force us to “fit” into.

And from the front… Photo: L’erotique

We begin with Simon’s masculine side in Kinkstar T, leather vest, boots and pants, as he tenderly handles Snake Eve, we discuss the differences between kink, BDSM and fetish, his physical attraction to sapiosexual women and “controversial” positions in the kink community, and watch his rap video “Hot & Kinky” parody of Weird Al Yankovic’s “White & Nerdy” parody of Charmillionaire’s “Ridin” featuring Krayzie Bone. Afterwards, Simon treats us to a riveting demonstration of his very personal style of sensual domination. Volunteering to sub for him is the lovely Audrey Holiday, whom we first saw on DrSuzy.Tv being piggy-hooded by Goddess Soma with Fat Mike of NOFX, as well as choked (do not try this at home!) by Orpheus Black on our super-kinky BDSM Theater show. So Audrey’s already a “kink star” in Bonoboville. But she’s blown away in a whole new way by Simon. Hailing from the tough “faccia tosta” state of Rhode Island, Audrey is a young lady of few words, but the words she breathlessly chooses to describe her “sub space” experience under the artistic domination of Simon Blaise are just right:

“Dizzy and awesome.”

That’s how we feel just watching the Blaise kaleidoscope of autumnal leather locks blaze across her naked breasts, the firm grasp of the flogger around her crotch and his eagle-eyed gaze upon her reactions to his actions. Then there’s the rhythmic soundtrack of the thwack, thwack, THWACK across her bare back as she sighs and moans with passion. What a great kinkstar performance by both parties.

Simon Blaze reveal “hermaphroditic” features during his transformation into Simon Blaise. Photo: Ono Bo

Then it’s time to party. After a Bonobo Way book-spanking of Audrey’s adorable (and talented) ass, Simon transforms into Simon, as the rest of us get our Bonoboville Communion on with both spiced Ron de Jeremy rum (Yum!) and Agwa Coca Leaf Herbal Liqueur (Yum-Yum!). Everybody frees the nipple, including Simon who reveals her lovely silicon-free 36Bs. Kinky 34DD pornstar Dayton Rains—now a webcam and phone therapist with the Institute—adorably attired in a pink tutu, black feather mask and not much else, is so enamored with Simon’s cherry red-pedicured toes that she takes Communion off of them.

DrSuzy.Tv show producer Biz Bonobo, a.k.a. Elizabeth Aston, looking elegant in Daisy Fuentes retro-kinky lingerie, takes her Communion from Simon’s left nipple. Mid-suck, she deftly grabs our guest’s happy crotch, finding and stimulating the hidden “clitoris” within the balls, practically giving her a blended male/female orgasm right there on the broadcast bed.

Biz Bonobo investigates Simon’s clitoris. Photo: L’erotique

Then Dayton and Audrey take turns investigating Simon’s goodies, over and under her dress. Whatever the exact scientific classification, our investigation results in greater appreciation. Nothing like a little hands-on research, a.k.a. the Bonobo Handshake, to help you to appreciate a fellow human. Surreal yet very real, the scene seems like something out of the Dr. Magnus Hirschfeld Institute of Weimar Berlin.

Whatever the state of their genitalia, many different types of men are getting in touch with their feminine sides. Likewise, more and more women are feeling freer to express their masculine, more aggressive aspects. All of this is very much in tune with The Bonobo Way, especially the 6^th step of the 12 Steps to Releasing Your Inner Bonobo: Explore the “Opposite” Sex Within You.

Simon Blaise tells her story on DrSuzy.Tv. Photo: Ono Bo

Which brings me to a shout-out to Carrie Weisman for her excellent Alternet article on a complex subject: the “Bro Job” – “Why ‘Straight’ Men Secretly Have Sex with Each Other.” Though Simon says he has never had sex as a man with a man, he agrees that this aspect of sexuality involving same-sex play is one of the few areas where women are afforded more leniency than men. It’s a touchy subject that we specialize in addressing here at the Block Institute and (full disclosure) maybe one reason I find Carrie’s article to be so excellent is that she quotes me liberally throughout it.

Another shout-out and mutual congrats to Dr. SerenaGaia Anderlini D’onofrio and Lindsay Hagamen, co-editors of Ecosexuality: When Nature Inspires the Arts of Love (for which I’m honored to have written the foreword) and all the contributing writers to this dazzling collection, for winning the Living Now Book Awards bronze medal in sexuality. Three cheers for Earth Love! More book-spankings with Ecosexuality! Read it, study it or get spanked by it.

Book-Spanking naughty Audrey with Ecosexuality & The Bonobo Way. Photo: L’erotique

And Happy Kink Month! Be a kinkstar, at least in your own boudoir. As Capt’n Max intones towards the end, the killing fields are crowded with the ghosts of victims of human folly, war, bombing, beheading, police shootings, fanatical executions and civilian mass-murders. Then there’s environmental murder by corporate greed and carelessness. Can we stop or even curtail these multiple human killing machines? We can only try. And we have to start with ourselves, which might mean releasing our kinks through consensual play and not lethal violence. So shoot the good gun between your legs and throw those bad guns into the junkheap. It’s the Bonobo Way. And the Kinky Way.

Kinkstars for Kink Month on DrSuzy.Tv. Photo: JuxLii

© October 11, 2015. Susan Block, Ph.D., a.k.a. “Dr. Suzy,” is a world renowned LA sex therapist, author of The Bonobo Way: The Evolution of Peace through Pleasure and horny housewife, occasionally seen on HBO and other channels. For speaking engagements, call 310-568-0066.