Gun Shots or Cum Shots? Sex Vs. Violence in American Media
Two mass murders in quick succession got me wondering—yet again—why America is so murderously violent, both abroad and at home. Obviously, there is a rich and tangled tapestry of reasons, one being our sheer number of citizens (statistically, we’re likely to have more mass murders than other countries). Another is the relative convenience with which Americans can acquire automatic weapons; in some states, like Alabama, it’s easier to buy a gun than a sex toy.
Speaking of sex, another reason for all the all-American violence might be that the American Brain leans more toward the “Might Makes Right” than the “Make Love, Not War” school of thought. This is partly an American tradition; our nation was founded by Puritans who came to a new land, brimming with religiously inspired, passionately anti-sex fervor, and essentially mass-murdered most of the natives so they could live in “peace.” That tradition is carried on by an American media and ratings system that consistently rewards violent programming packed with shootings, stabbings and bombings with G or PG ratings, but smacks an X or NC-17 on any film that shows a simple nipple. Shooting someone in the breast is considered PG, as long as that breast is clothed.
What does it mean to grow up under the influence of the consistent American media message that gun shots are “cleaner” and more acceptable than cum shots? At the very least, it’s one more reason that a deeply frustrated, psychotic individual might grab a semiautomatic weapon and mow down his neighbors, rather than just shooting the gun between his legs and taking a nap.
As my favorite developmental neuropsychologist, Dr. James Prescott, found through lab tests with animals and cross-cultural analyses of human societies: “Pleasure and violence have a reciprocal relationship, that is, the presence of one inhibits the other… A raging, violent animal will abruptly calm down when electrodes stimulate the pleasure centers of its brain. Likewise, stimulating the violence centers in the brain can terminate the animal’s sensual pleasure and peaceful behavior. When the brain’s pleasure circuits are ‘on,’ the violence circuits are ‘off,’ and vice versa…As either violence or pleasure goes up, the other goes down.”
Our kissing cousins, the bonobos, show us the way. Whereas common chimps tend to control sex through violence, bonobos control violence with sex. We humans, being about as equally close to bonobos as we are to common chimps, have our erotic bonobo side and our more violent and authoritarian (and Republican?) common chimp side. Personally, I’m rooting for our bonobo side to take over before we blow each other up.
I don’t believe in censorship, except the kind that stops folks from yelling “fire!” in the proverbial crowded theater. So I gathered together a congregation of pundits, publishers, porn stars and puppets (amazing marionettes created by the Team America: World Police “Puppet Man”, actually, but more on that in a minute) to address these sex, life and death issues in the Womb Room broadcast studio.
In terms of the issues, my guests agree to disagree on some points (like the Second Amendment), but we all love the beautiful, naked bodies and the hot, passionate sex that emerges, as it fortunately does in so many glorious editions of The Dr. Susan Block Show. The night climaxes with a cum shot, not a gun shot, in the after-party. So in the Sex vs. Violence competition, sex wins! At least here in BonoboVille, sex wins.
Lara Riscol: A Colorado mom and journalist who “questions the stories we tell ourselves about sex,” published in The Nation, Salon, AlterNet, RHReality Check, Religion Dispatches, among others, I discovered Lara upon reading her AlterNet article, “What Terrorizes Americans Most: Guns or Sexual Freedom?”, which inspired the topic for this show. Lara’s pro-sex education stance has gotten her flak from some anti-sex readers, but it wins her new fans on my show.
Robert “Corpsy” Rhine: Deaditor-in-Chief of Girls and Corpses magazine and one of my favorite guests, Corpsy brings sex—or at least, sexy girls—and death (sometimes violent, bloody death) together in his humorous, kink-filled, but PG-rated (though it has some of the goriest-looking corpses imaginable, it has no nudity) magazine. He brings his new issue (Volume 6, Summer) featuring my brand new “Sex To Die For” column. Pick up Girls and Corpses to see how I answer a girl’s question regarding the sex she believes she is having on a nightly basis with the ghost of her late boyfriend, and also check out the photo spread featuring Dr. Susan Block Show producer Tasia Sutor and Starry Knight having kinky fun in a graveyard. We also do another tribute to our late great friend and clown porn princess Holly Stevens, a G&C model and close friend of Corpsy, who recently died from an especially aggressive form of breast cancer. One war we’re all in favor of fighting-to-win is the war against cancer. Fortunately, Max is winning his own personal Big C Battle…so far.
Scott Land: Creator of the legendary marionettes of South Park’s Team America: World Police (check out the hilarious and super kinky Team America puppet sex scene), the ‘Puppet Man” brings an even raunchier, anatomically explicit cast of marionettes to our show, including a flasher who opens up his raincoat to reveal a literally flashing cock and balls (he’s got wood!). We’re also treated to a John McCain lookalike who dances and sits on Tasia’s lap, a clown with a dick that grows like Pinocchio’s nose, an Obama who likes to lick my boobs and a sexy female puppet who engages in some girl-on-puppet action with Missy Martinez. Though the Team America marionettes are some of the most violent puppets on the planet (blowing up the Eiffel Tower, among other things), the new dolls are very bonobo. Speaking of which, thank you, Tasia, for making me a bonobo puppet to greet Scott’s team.
Missy Martinez: A porn star training to become an autopsy technician, Missy met Corpsy on our Prinzzess-Missy Love & Death Fest last year, and upon hearing her shrieking orgasm that could wake the dead, he decided to give her the much coveted title of Corpsette. Though this is Missy’s third time on the show, she does experience an exciting first … puppet sex! She flashes the flasher and (literally) gets wood when she gives a clown puppet a blowjob, and then has a female puppet sit on her face.
Orpheus Black: A polyamorous BDSM master who specializes in choking and spanking, in his third appearance on the show (first two times were Monogamy Sucks and Spankophiliac’s Intermezzo), Orpheus promotes his new Club Hentai, and reminds us that some forms of “violence” can be sexual satisfying for both parties, at least when they’re consensual.
Indigo Black: Orpheus’ first wife showed us how much she enjoyed being consensually choked on Monogamy Sucks, so I’m not surprised to hear her pipe up during our discussion of consensual violence to let us know she sees this as such a natural act to her that she never even considers it “violent.” Again, consensuality is the key, but do not try choking unless you’ve been trained properly. When things go lethally wrong—as they can in an instant–the courts aren’t much kinder to consensual chokers than nonconsensual stranglers.
Tiffany Starr: Featured on Vanilla Sucks and Rubber Bordello, Tif one of the prettiest and spunkiest transsexual porn stars we know. She’s not officially featured on this show, so spends most of it listening to the other guests and quietly making out on the couch with her hot new GF. She then slides in behind me on my show bed and sets about a good mattress-shaking fucking, later coming a hot load onto her chest in the after-party. Yes, cum shots trump gun shots in BonoboVille.
Addie Rose: Tiffany’s new girlfriend takes a break from their makeout session long enough to tell us her story of having been discovered and honorably discharged from the army for being a transwoman.
Kitty Twinkle Toes: Another regular Speakeasy favorite, during the show’s climax, this former Joffrey ballerina swings around the stripper pole wearing nothing but her toe shoes and gives Corpsy a gynecology lesson.
Evilyn Fierce: This pretty BDSM model is quiet as a puppet without a puppeteer. Of course, some of my other guests don’t stop talking, so I don’t have much of a chance to draw her out. Next time, hopefully she’ll show us just how fierce she can be.
Caller Chris wants to know if it’s ok to enjoy pain during sex. We think it is, as long as: a) it’s consensual, and b) it’s not illegal—unless you’re in Alabama, in which case, that “no sex toys” law just needs to be broken and contested until they get rid of it like slavery and sharecropping.
Weapons of Mass Discussion: Sex Vs. Violence, MPAA Censorship, Republicans Are Secretly Kinky, Columbine & Aurora Shootings, Wisconsin Shooting, Gun Control, The Bonobo Way, Sex Education, Talking to Kids About Sex Vs. Talking to Kids About Violence, My New “Sex To Die For” Column In Girls ‘N’ Corpses Magazine, Consensual & Non-Consensual Sex &Violence, BDSM, Court Cases For BDSM Gone Wrong, Choking, Polyamory, Japanese Porn, RapeMan Comic Book, Transsexuals In The Army, Receiving My Honorary Doctorate From the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, Chimps Vs. Bonobos: Controlling Sex Through Violence Vs. Controlling Violence Through Sex, Sex Education, Hentai, Japan’s Low Murder/High Suicide Rates, R.I.P. Natalie DeMore, RIP Hollie Stevens
Performance Erotica: Bodacious Bare Boobs (Weapons Of Mass Seduction), Dancing Prancing Marionettes, Puppet Fellatio, Puppet Face Sitting, Striptease, Absinthe Time, Hot Hard Squirting Tranny Sex, Naked Pole-Dance Ballet, Panties for Panty Boy, Playing with the Wendy Williams Ass By Doc Johnson, Pipedream Products Cocks of All Sizes