Orgasms are like flowers; there are many different varieties. All are beautiful in their own way, but some may not be your cup of love juice. There are quickie orgasms, deep slow orgasms, clitoral orgasms, vaginal/cervical orgasms and G-spot orgasms (for women), P-spot orgasms (for men), blended orgasms, extended orgasms, foreplay orgasms, fellatio orgasms, cunnilingus orgasms, masturbatory orgasms, woman-on-top orgasms, missionary orgasms, doggy-style orgasms, reverse-cowgirl orgasms, spoon-style orgasms, yabyum orgasms, first-time orgasms, multiple orgasms, simultaneous orgasms, therapeutic orgasms, bisexual orgasms, anal orgasms, massage orgasms, orgasms that seem to come from parts of the body other than the genitals (i.e., nipplegasms, toegasms, eargasms), emotional orgasms, no-touch orgasms, healing orgasms, fantasy-related orgasms, fetish-oriented orgasms, mechanical orgasms, massager orgasms, vibrator orgasms, dildo orgasms, phone sex orgasms, spanking orgasms, sadomasochistic orgasms, bondage orgasms, pain-killer orgasms, sinus-clearing orgasms, “sperm war” orgasms, involuntary orgasms, swinging orgasms, orgiastic orgasms, tantric-style non-ejaculatory orgasms for men, male ejaculatory orgasms that shoot versus the kind that just dribble, and female ejaculatory orgasms (squirting).

What do women want when it comes to orgasm? The most profound orgasmic need for women is to be able to have fulfilling orgasms when we want them, with or without our partners, with or without sex toys, in different positions, clitorally or vaginally, or perhaps an anal orgasm or a squirting orgasm. Women also tend to want to speed up the amount of time it takes for us to have an orgasm.

For men, the need is for control. Young men tend to want to be able to last longer during intercourse before they ejaculate. There are many techniques to achieve this, most of which you can find in The 10 Commandments of Pleasure. Older men (who may suffer from retarded ejaculation) want to be able to ejaculate more easily and more powerfully. This could involve having *dry* orgasms before the big squirt, but there are other simpler techniques to achieve easier, more powerful ejaculations as a man ages. There is also a growing interest among men in anal (P-spot) stimulation before or during orgasm.

Morphine is said to imitate the endorphins of orgasm. There is one basic similarity: both are strong pain-killers. But all in all, orgasms are better. Certainly healthier. Plus, orgasms don’t make you hallucinate weird nightmarish stuff; morphine does. Of course, having an orgasm requires some effort: either a good lover, or your own hand. You can receive a shot a morphine even if you’re unconscious and unable to move.

Anyway, they don’t let you take morphine at home, which is probably just as well. So, after my H licked me into this giant orgasm, I gave him a nice hand-and-blowjob. And we fell asleep in each other’s arms. No opiated nightmares. Just the deep bliss of being alive and in love.