“Crush” sounds like a soft drink or a teenager in love with her teacher, but it’s also a fetish. Actually, the word “crush” is used to describe a few fetishes. When the Spike TV crew interviewed me the other day, they were a little confused as to which particular fetish they wanted to talk about. So, here we go with those categories again…

Crushing Pee Wee in “Feet”

1) Crush
Classic “crush” involves watching someone, usually a woman, step on or in various things that crush, smash or squish under her foot or shoe. These could be crushable things such as eggs, creme-filled donuts, cookies, crackers, dolls and other toys, Jell-O, honey or grapes, or they could be living creatures like insects, mice or even kittens. This is what is generally meant when people refer to “crush” in the fetish community. However, the Spike TV crew looked bewildered when I told them this. What they thought of as “crush” is more commonly called…

2) Trampling
“Trampling” involves being stepped on, usually by a woman with bare feet or high heels. Trampling pioneer Queen Adrina first introduced us to the joys of trampling. This is what the Spike TV folks defined as “crush,” mainly because a dominatrix had sent them a video of herself trampling guys, and she called it “crush.” Hey, I’m not going to argue with someone who steps on people for a living.

3) Queening or Smothering
“Queening” or “Smothering” involves being sat upon, usually by a woman, with or without her panties on, with or without the aid of a Queening Stool. The mistress sits on the slave’s face as he or she services her genitals and/or her buttocks. Since the domme who had sent them the video also called this “crush,” that’s what the Spike TV’ers called it. Often guys who like trampling or queening are called “macrophiles” who like “giantesses”

Why do some men like to be trampled, smothered, crushed by women? Most guys like to feel big and powerful; that’s why men generally like petite women. But some men like to feel small and helpless; well, they don’t necessarily like it, but it turns them on. It gives them an erection. I know it sounds ironic, but feeling small makes their penis BIG. Some are foot fetishists. Some masochistic men like to feel pain. Some men enjoy being physically dominated by a woman. In a way, it makes them feel strong, and hard, to be able to withstand being stepped on by a big woman, especially a big woman wearing stiletto heels. Often, the trampling or queening fetish is related to macrophilia which involves the fetishist wanting to be small, like a child again. The woman is often a giantess or amazon woman. But not necessarily. There are many variations on this fetish.

Spike TV asked me if I knew any women that enjoy being crushed. To some extent, most women enjoy being with men who are bigger than them and make them feel small and precious, like a child. Many women love having sex in the missionary position where they feel like they are being crushed by a big strong man. That’s hot. But women being stepped on? I’ve encountered a few lesbian women that like being stepped on by other women. But women who want a guy to step on them? No, not much call for that. Most women feel stepped on enough by guys; they don’t need it in sex.

Dionysian Squish in “Feet”

Other crush fetishists don’t want to be stepped on at all. Well, they may want to be, but only in fantasy, not reality. In reality, they want to watch a woman crush things or animals. Or they might like watching a woman riding an elephant that steps on and crushes the life out of a man. They get a sadistic thrill out of watching this. How many people are crush fetishists? More than you might imagine. Enough to make the Return of the 50-foot Woman a cult hit, even though it wasn’t such a great movie. Crush fetishists generally fall into two camps: 1) those that like to see women stepping on and killing or maiming living creatures, and 2) those who condemn this lethal approach to the fetish. Needless to say, I fall into the second camp. I confess to feeling some sadistic joy in stepping on cockroaches, but I’m not proud of it. We have no live creature-crushing at our world-famous Foot Fetish Salons. But one crush activity, grape stomping, is always the biggest hit of the salon.

What about the guys who want women to sit on their faces? Gentle “smothering” is a very popular fetish, much more common than the fetish for being walked on. It is sometimes said that men into smothering really want to crawl back inside the womb. They usually love the smell of a woman’s genitalia and/or her butt as much as they like the feeling of being smothered.

I have a few crush and trampling scenes on my Foot Fetish DVD. One shows a woman stepping on a man. Another shows another woman crushing a Pee Wee Herman doll. In a different scene, I walk on the back of a slave. We also show a woman stepping into a bowl of Jell-O, and another woman stomping on grapes. Then a slave licks the grape juice and pulp off her feet. Everyone loves the grape-stomping scene. Lots of guys watch it and say, “I’m not a foot fetishist, or a crush fetishist, but this is really erotic.”

Still think that crush fetishists are weird? What about the millions of people who enjoy watching demolitions? There are even sites, such as Implosion World, precisely for these folks to satisfy their desire to watch buildings get crushed (or more precisely, implode) to smithereens. Do they really have a crush fetish? I would say, to some extent, yes.

Do crush, squish, trampling, smothering or queening fetishists need help? Some people do dangerous knife tricks as part of a thrilling knife throwing act. Do they need help? The desire to have someone walk on you or feeling pleasure from watching someone step on an egg is not inherently bad. Of course, it can be dangerous, if you’re doing it obsessively or if you’re keeping secrets from your significant other. A big woman could literally smother a guy to death, if they’re not careful. But all of these fetishes can be as safe and enjoyable as any sport or hobby, if you just manage to maintain your common sense.

If you feel like you might be losing your ability to make sense of any of these fetishes, or if you just want to discuss the matter further, you might be a candidate for telephone sex therapy. Give us a call at 213-291-9497, and the fine telephone sex therapists of the Dr. Susan Block Institute will help you deal with your crush on crushing, your penchant for being queened or whatever you feel is trampling your ability to enjoy life.