Thank you for this! This is the best spanking blog I’ve ever read. My experience has been mainly the spanking of adult male butts if that makes a difference, but spankings are spankings regardless if you are spanking a male butt or a female, and I have found that a man who goes to someone like me for a spanking goes to keep his inner child in check

So i wanted to finish what i started earlier, in my last post. I meant to add this in my last post, but what i think what brought my spanking fetish up, was the fact that i had a female butt fetish. I love female butts, i have liked girls butts since i was extremely young. When i was a child, and would see a nice girl’s butt, i would think to myself, I wonder what it would like if I had a chance to spank this girl’s butt? I love the feel, to touch, grab, poke, play, massage, slap, spank, prod, probe, etc. So just because of my butt fetish, that branched out into spanking and anal fetishes.

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One of the things that you mentioned, you said “Kids are dumber if they are spanked.” That’s not true, so you have someone that did a study on kids, some that were spanked and some that were not spanked.

Sometimes when having to discipline a child, sometimes spanking does not work. That is true, sometimes you have to use other methods. I know back in my day, i was spanked. Looked how i turned out? I turned out fine, never went to jail, etc etc etc. Did me getting spanked a child start this spanking fantasy up of mine? I don’t know.

So many things i want to mention in this article of yours, but so tired, long day for me.

Spanking a child if done the proper way, is totally fine by me. I see nothing wrong with that at all. As long as the child knows that it is done in love, and not done in hatred. Only getting a few swats to the behind with an open hand, or for serious offenses a paddle would work. As long as they are not getting their butts busted, getting bruises etc. So i am not against spanking children, but I’m not for it either. I mean there are other ways to discipline a child. Using the naughty step would work on younger kids. I know your not supposed to use food, but using food as a bribe seems to work also for some kids. Like candy for example. Use candy as a reward, hey you did such and such for me, you deserve this.

Thank you for letting me post a comment on here, will want to post another comment on here later. Thank you Dr. Block.

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I late in life faced my spanking fetish after 3 decades of hiding it in deep fear and shame! By searching for answers on the internet I eventually found answers. I was told lies at first by people who believed spanking was just an inherited condition. After failing to find a female partner understanding and complimentary of my need to be spanked and being rejected by my wife as perverted and damaged and then learning in the blog sphere that many mothers completely separate and deny their own spanking fetish is creating an “extra” motivation for them to spank their children as a punishment I realized I have discovered that present and past generations of parents have mostly unconsciously and sometimes covertly consciously are sexually abusing their children by spanking them. I completely lost it emotionally and fell into depression and frequent post-traumatic stress disorder flashbacks. So, I went into 5 years of psychotherapy, I had no time for privacy so sessions were via internet Skype and phone but sometimes work made it intermittent so it took more years to work the most painful emotions out.
The Webster definition in your article is so general it’s destined to continue to hide the more serious sinister act that creates the sexual violation in children, especially by spanking fetish parents. It in essence is a legal for of incest in victims who feel those childhood experiences as I do and as some of your patience do too!
“to strike or slap the buttocks, usually with the palm of the hand.” You wrote very intelligently and supportively about advising parents not to spank! This dictionary description hides the common parenting practice in administering a child spanking and that is ritual physical preparation and intentional body sexual shaming by partially or fully forcing nudity and in most cases visual genital exposure. This created the psychological trauma with overwhelming shame and humiliation! More on this later. In my memory I had no concept of eroticism yet as my mother ritually forced me to stand near her and allow her to unsnap my trouser jeans, unzip my fly zipper, and pull down my jeans below my buttocks and then my underwear to the same position in the split second of fear and terror for the coming pain, was deep humiliation and shame sensed as being inflicted deliberately, mingled with erotic genital arousal that was fleetingly pleasant and unwanted. As intently as I recall my mother remaining verbally cold and commanding while ordering this punishment process all the while stating to me she hated doing this but believed it was the only way I would learn my “lesson” I can never forget the smile on her face at my helplessness she was trying to hide and the gleam in her eye!
Today all the searching in the spanko world and BDSM world leaves me sadly unfulfilled. Many spankos are happy just getting a degree of fantasy interaction with another willing adult and receiving the physical sensations and pain. I my therapy I learned the psychology world views human sexuality feelings, and the emotion of love almost indistinguishable. Over the course of my childhood most spanking was by my mother as stated previously, I unfortunately associated the unwanted sexual arousal with maternal spankings and a deep sense of being loved. No other sexual or romantic exchange has ever been as intimate or emotionally bonding!

As a victim who hates his age regressive submissive spanking fetish I sincerely thank you for offering proof and evidence of the harms of spanking. While you state you have many spanking fetish patients who claim they were never spanked it’s been explained they may not have had to have been spanked themselves to develop a trauma from spanking, the mere concept of it threatening them or sound or sight of another child could create the conditions that create this fetish. Also those who have a spanking fetish could have been too young to remember their childhood spankings. The concern in your article is that this fetish isn’t harmful, it’s helpful and despite your recommendation to parents not to spank their children it is based on harmful behavior changes in personality toward violence and lost intelligence but no mention of violated sexuality, a changed sexuality, nor incestual motives by parents to spank their children. I do applaud you for speaking about the role of religion in supporting spanking and thus potential for sexual dysfunctions. Please in the future challenge the spanking fetish parent for their motives and their sense of entitlement to take the risk of sexually arousing their child and altering their child’s sexuality without the child’s consent! For some it is pure ignorance, for others it is covert sexual abuse! I will live the rest of my life without ever knowing and experiencing the deepest sense of feeling loved and bonded to a woman emotionally for my spanking fetish and the regressive maternal chains of punishment it calls me to! I you have additional thoughts or recommendations I’m at emotimatly@yhahoo.com. Thank you! Sincerely!

Good word, “apparently”. Could be seen as a correlation in search of a theory. Let’s look for a theory. Consider the case of little Johnny and little Tristan. Little Johnny’s mother is not to bright when it comes to expressing herself, but she does know – perhaps from hard experience – what those around her probably will or definitely will not approve of. Little Johnny stands on the seat in the bus. “Get down.” “Why?” “Because I said so.” “Why?” THWACK. Little Tristan’s mother is far more linguistically accomplished. “Don’t do that.” “Why?” “Because your shoes are dirty from walking in the street and so they’ll make the seat dirty. Then, if someone sits down there in nice new clothes, […remainder of admonition omitted for brevity …].”

Prof. Murray Straus’ findings might just be related to Basil Bernstein’s concept of “restricted” and “elaborated” linguistic codes transmitted through verbal and nonverbal channels, and demonstrate the cumulative effect of those concepts in real situations. But getting any sort of determination of that would involve bringing the nature and behaviour of the spanker, beyond just the act of spanking, into a falsifiable framework, not just a simple-minded sort and count of the spanked or not.

Plus, spanking is just HOT !! Whether I am on the giving end or the receiving end, a good spanking never fails to get me started :)

Thanks again for an informative and provocative look at a great passion of mine!

Catch me if you can hihihihihihi

Spanking was definitely a gateway for me into BDSM. Even as a kid my friends and I would spank each other during “house”.
As an adult, in my home I spank my girlfriend, when we go to parties I might spank her in public, or I’ll arrange a scene with friend.

Spanking is lovely before, during, and after sex. Other impact play isn’t.
You don’t need any expensive or fancy toys for a spanking; you’re always ready to give or take a spanking! Having my outlook erotically charged as such makes the day much for interesting.
Found objects are fun for spanking too! Spoons, spatulas, wearing leather or even latex gloves can change the sensation for the bottom.

I love how a good, low, heavy thwack moves through my whole body and jiggles my cunt!

Plus, I have a big, tight ass and I can take a lot!

Xoxoxox

As always great article Doc.