Comments on: #GoBonobos in the New Year! #FreeTheNipple & Let’s Make 2015 the Year of the Bonobo (8):{I)

By: Michelle

Michelle — Wed, 14 Jan 2015 07:50:33 +0000

Thanks for this one. The bonobos story always warms my heart.

By: Jeffrey Peterson

Jeffrey Peterson — Sat, 10 Jan 2015 02:43:25 +0000

I Love your work and your Beauty.

By: Mark D

Mark D — Thu, 08 Jan 2015 10:31:06 +0000

Dr Block, I just read your article ‘Make 2015 the Year of the Bonobo on the Ecologist’s website. Can I say how interesting I found it? I don’t know much about apes, and nothing about bonobos (I’d vaguely heard of them, but that was it). But also, I loved all the sex references and the positive theme of the article. It was just what I needed. I’m 29, male, British and bisexual. I’m also, rather embarrassingly, a virgin (both with men and women). This isn’t something I’m proud of but a combination of a religious upbringing (I’m not religious any longer), and a shy persona has made talking to people difficult. The longer I wait the harder it gets. I also face the issue of women being put off by my sexuality and many don’t seem interested in virgins…. At our office Christmas party a drunk lass (I don’t drink) told me she had a secret crush on me and kissed me on the cheek twice. I went to the cinema with her, once, as what I saw was a date (she might have disagreed) and I’m due to go to movies again with her this Friday – well, her and a friend of hers. And whilst I do really want to be like the bonobos and have sex, it is also just an achievement for me actually ask a girl out, or talk to one (well, go on a date with one). So whatever happens, that’s sort of a victory for me, though the longer I leave it, the harder it gets and my first time will probably be pretty bad and quick anyway; they usually are (so I read).

What I really loved about your article as well was the strong positive female theme running through it. I am so in favour of women being strong in the bedroom and boardroom. I think too many women today feel like they have to wait for a guy to ask them out – one woman at work, younger than me, was lamenting the fact her boyfriend hadn’t yet proposed. When I asked why she didn’t propose to him she was almost speechless, informing me she couldn’t do that. I wasn’t quite sure why. I find it sexy when a woman asks a guy out because a) I’m an introvert and b) it shows me that she is the kind of woman who isn’t really interested in tradition and we will, probably, get on, if she can look past my geekiness.

I recently finished my PhD in History, and it was a difficult year last year, with it coming to an end and trying to find a job. So I’m hoping 2015 is a far better year, and what better way to start it than by reading your article?!

So, Dr Block, thanks again for writing it. You made me smile.

By: Anton Wijaya

Anton Wijaya — Wed, 07 Jan 2015 19:31:43 +0000

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By: Sophie

Sophie — Wed, 07 Jan 2015 03:10:25 +0000

Haha it already is every year. For me at least. XP

By: Serena Anderlini

Serena Anderlini — Sat, 03 Jan 2015 18:49:09 +0000

viva Bonoboville, let’s try the Bonobo Way!

By: Erotic Gent

Erotic Gent — Sat, 03 Jan 2015 10:02:56 +0000

LOVED your #GoBonobos journal posting on a fitting New Year’s resolution. I lapped-up every word and could not stop reading it. So well expressed thoughts that resonate as always. One of the many reasons we love you and what you do!

By: Stan Kent

Stan Kent — Sat, 03 Jan 2015 09:33:38 +0000

Have donated and done much bonobo-ing since we met 2015 – challenge gladly accepted! Loved the book! Let’s make 2015 the year of the bonobos! Happy 2015 to you and Max. #GoBonobos

By: Alex

Alex — Sat, 03 Jan 2015 09:07:21 +0000

Miss your pretty face, Doc. Happy New Year to you and all your bonobos.

By: Max

Max — Sat, 03 Jan 2015 04:31:28 +0000

In reply to Samantha Fairley. Love you guys!

By: Bob Gryszka

Bob Gryszka — Sat, 03 Jan 2015 01:05:38 +0000

beautiful…now that is how i would bring in the new rear…

By: Samantha Fairley

Samantha Fairley — Sat, 03 Jan 2015 00:38:56 +0000

Awesome!!!

By: Nikki Knight

Nikki Knight — Fri, 02 Jan 2015 19:48:19 +0000

Great resolutions! I especially like this part: “Work towards eradicating sexual shame. Resolve to enhance the bonoboësque qualities within you, share more, judge less, empathize with others and eroticize your life. Resolve to break bad common-chimpish habits of getting mad when things don’t go your way, hoarding stuff out of fear and greed, shaming others out of envy or ignorance and/or raging (whether abusively or impotently) like a grumpy old ape. Resolve to express your natural urge to “party like a bonobo,” to savor and share the simple, most profound pleasures of life every day and night of the year with friends, lovers and, perhaps most importantly, with strangers. Bonobos love strangers. After all, the unknown can frightening… or sexually exciting. The common chimp in you is always in a state of fear and suspicion. You inner bonobo is always open to love.”

By: Zapman

Zapman — Fri, 02 Jan 2015 08:54:21 +0000

Just finished reading your amazingly illuminating and wonderfully written book The Bonobo Way (can you tell I’m a fan?) and I just want to say thank you for your constant march towards a better and more peaceful world, starting with our own limited world of friends, relatives and loved ones. We may not be able to change the whole world but we can certainly change our own world. Thank you for showing the way. And hey everybody, read this book, I’m telling you it will touch you where no other book dares to go…go bonobos!